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Thanks, guys. It means a lot. Mom was better today. Was sitting up, and talking, which is good. Each day, I guess. In other news, I'm still on the wait list for my hip replacement.
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I have a question for you guys. And I want an honest answer. 'Cause I really need to know. If your 90 + year old mother fell and broke her hip, would you decide it was business as usual and go camping--90 miles away? And stay there. That's what my brother & sister-in-law did. They showed up at the hospital, and hung around town for 2 more days. And have NOT even visited Mom since. Or called the hospital. Or left a message for Mom. They LIVE here. They are both long retired,, so their days are largely up to them how they spend them. Apparently believe support of Mom is not their department. Yet they spent years always getting above and beyond favours from Mom. They weren't shy about that. Now she needs them--by her side--they are AWOL. I really need your opinion on this. I'm sooooo incredibly upset about this.
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LITTLE LAURA:
I have a question for you guys. And I want an honest answer. 'Cause I really need to know. If your 90 + year old mother fell and broke her hip, would you decide it was business as usual and go camping--90 miles away? And stay there. That's what my brother & sister-in-law did. They showed up at the hospital, and hung around town for 2 more days. And have NOT even visited Mom since. Or called the hospital. Or left a message for Mom. They LIVE here. They are both long retired,, so their days are largely up to them how they spend them. Apparently believe support of Mom is not their department. Yet they spent years always getting above and beyond favours from Mom. They weren't shy about that. Now she needs them--by her side--they are AWOL. I really need your opinion on this. I'm sooooo incredibly upset about this.
Awww bless your sweet heart. It's been my experience that some children just can't take care or visit when illness strikes. Have actually heard some children offer the caregiver child advice such as "well, you can move away too" when asked for help. Personally, I've been the caregiver child for my parents and my in law. I feel like you, I cannot just ignore the situation. My mother in law had a broken hip in her 80's and thankful she healed well... Her 3 children totally ignored her and worse. They were just unable to help...I got her groceries, 10 books a week at the library etc.... it was a lot of work, I loved her very much, she was like a second mother and I was happy to do it. (Yet sometimes tired too) Try not to have resentment, some people are caregivers and some are not. My mom was eventually moved to assisted living out of state because I worked a lot. Although it made me so sad it was near where her retired brothers and sisters were, so it was for her best interest, while very very sad for me. I tried to make the 3 hour trip every other Sunday for years and had my mother in law also, to run errands for. You have to do what's in your heart... It sounds like you have a huge heart...your Mom is very lucky to have you. I feel blessed in so many ways, looking back...when my mother passed on, she shared a very spiritual experience with me at her dying, leaving no doubt in my mind that God, Jesus, Angels came to take her to Heaven. I 100% believe and it was the greatest gift she left me with. One can only control their own actions. Look inside your own heart, for the truth and direction... The answer will be there... (((Little Laura))) All the best to you ?
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Thank-you so much for your lovely post. It does help me. I'm still mad @ my Bro & Sis in law. They so like to portray themselves as poster-adult children, yet disappear when truly needed. Maybe the distance is for the good, as I would be screaming at them if they were here. (A friend told me that wouldn't do my Mom any good). My younger Brother told me to forget them and focus on Mom. I guess you all are right. But it still hurts. Thank-you again tho. It's nice to know I still have friends here too.
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Ahhhhh me. When my bro dared to lecture me about how "little" I had done and it was the job of the elder daughter to visit, I'm afraid I exploded. Sigh. I"M the sick one in the family, yet I'm the one visiting,(& doing lots of other things for Mom, besides), while he thinks staying away--no running away--is fine. So the proverbial you-know-what-hit the fan. Family. Sigh....and we wonder why the world can't get along! Blame the hot weather? Ok. NO more "family details". That's it. But now you know where my head is lately....... : Oh, and I'm still waiting to hear when I go for surgery.
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Almost 12 mths to the day, my power wheelchair is giving trouble---again!!!! I first noticed at the beginning of this mth, (Aug), that is was slowing waaaay down every time I made a turn; no matter what speed (gear?) it was in. The last couple of weeks it can't maintain the speed I set it at. It is slowing abruptly with a small jerk, then with another jerk it hits the speed it's supposed to. Then slipping down again. Up then down, up down, up down. And all it's speeds are not quite as fast as they once were. The last couple of days it has accelerated these weird symptoms. I think they're gonna have to look at it again. The way it's going I'm starting to think this chair won't last another week. But. I DO NOT WANT ANOTHER BIG BILL, thank-you very much! Can anyone guess what this maybe is?????
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I'm sorry, I'm not mechanically minded and don't know. I do know that I want you to catch a break. A lot of them. You deserve that.
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Sorry to hear about the family issues and wheelchair Life is not fair...no where near fair sometimes... The only peace place to be found is within yourself. â¤ï¸ð??ð?»ð??« Have you thought of making a go fund me? Put it on your Facebook, on here, wherever your friends can find it. Perhaps your doctor's office can advise you of ways to lower costs as well... Hopefully, you just need your gears adjusted? They must be warranteed, call right away, since it's one year almost!!! (((Little Laura))) May good luck find you and lighten your load...
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Thanks guys, all of you. I emailed the company I bought it from and who services it, yesterday. They aren't open weekends, (grrrr), but hopefully they read it first thing Monday. Adding to woes, last April, the Provincial Gov't switched Insurance Companies; so I don't know how I'm covered. I tried to log onto it's website, but it wouldn't accept the numbers the company sent me and is on my card. I'll have to phone them Monday. In other news, Mom is doing better, but she is going to be in hospital for quite a while yet. Life...................
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Well, so you know, turns out what was wrong with my power chair was a) the brushes were filthy (tho they were new last year ), and b) the bearings were worn almost completely. The bill will be $93.00. PHEW! I get it back sometime tomorrow. They're not gonna charge for transport. Nice.
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LITTLE LAURA:
Well, so you know, turns out what was wrong with my power chair was a) the brushes were filthy (tho they were new last year ), and b) the bearings were worn almost completely. The bill will be $93.00. PHEW! I get it back sometime tomorrow. They're not gonna charge for transport. Nice.
Great News!!! Glad to hear that!!!
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Yeah, I'm soooooo relieved. I can even pay this bill!
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Be careful about heaving a sigh of relief. The very next day my chair was acting up in the exact same way. So I phoned them right back. They said they could only take it back this Wednesday. On the bright side they said no charge. But what does that mean? No charge to take it back, but a big bill to fix it???? I've told them I can't have a big bill. We'll see what happens. In regard with Mom, it goes back and forth whether or not she can return to this care facility. My brother is all for putting her in the next level of care. A little too eagerly I think. This roller coaster is really getting to me. Up, down, up, down,...... :
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Update: Mom is back here at the Residence. She's doing great physically! You'd hardly know she broke her hip just 6 weeks ago today. The health authorities have decided for now she can cope enough cognitively to stay here for the time being. YAAAAAAAAY!!! It's what I've been saying all along. WHY don't they ever listen to those who know their parent(s) best??? Sigh. Still waiting for MY hip operation. Someone suggested I should accidently on purpose fall out of my wheelchair--might get it done sooner! Idon'tthinkso!
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So you and your mother live at the same place? That's good
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In a heartbeat is right. I was in a car accident in September and everything changed instantly. One minute, we were driving a shiny new car down the road, minding our own business. The next minute, we were in a twisted lump of metal that looked like it came out of a junkyard. Three vehicles touched each other for just a tiny snippet of time, but four lives were changed in that heartbeat. It's funny how something as simple as driving with consideration for your fellow man can make such a huge difference. If we all simply obeyed the rules of the road, there would be very few collisions. We're all in such a big hurry, we have to be there ten minutes ago. If we go faster, we'll get there sooner. But common sense tells us that if we crash into someone, we will probably get there much later. People running red lights has always been a pet peeve of mine. But I've a run red light or two. Haven't we all? I always knew it was wrong, but sometimes you just don't want to stop. If you stop at the red light, that's a full minute you have to wait. Maybe even two minutes at bigger intersections. Two whole minutes. Who has that much free time? The next time I drive a car, I'm going to be the most cautious person on the road. Hopefully, I won't let that slide over time. No one ever lay in a hospital bed and wished they would have driven more recklessly.
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Oh Hailey! We all, of course, had no idea. I'm glad you are back & hopefully feeling yourself again. You are soo right in saying what a hurry everyone is in. I've been driving a van & people ALWAYS try to get around me & pass me up. Then we sit at the same red light. They didn't get anywhere...but could have caused multiple accidents. And don't even get me started on people that text & drive.
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Thank you. I'm getting better all the time. I've never understood that race to the red light. It's so stupid. Are people tired and looking to get there faster so they can rest a little before racing off to the next light? Have you ever seen someone text while driving a scooter? That's someone who clearly wants to die.
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Texting on a scooter? That's insanity. : And it's also a deathwish.
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Sorry to hear of your accident Hailey ... I hope you are getting better ( Or are already there) ... Way in the past now ... As a passenger ... I went through an accident directly hitting the passenger Side of the car ... They had to get me out with "The jaws of life" (A tool for Cutting metal etc..) Things changed in a heartbeat... I healed with surgery and time. It took a little while to clear My thoughts... I didn't need to get into that I'm just saying I know how fast Things change in those nano seconds ... Take care